Every single morning my son has an ache in his body. This has been a habit these past couple of years in the morning before school. There are days I kept him home, to realize that the days before he had a conflict at school. Another bully, another teasing session, another label a teacher put on him.
I can’t help but feel outraged! I feel for him and I want to fix it. Yet, at 11 years old, I cannot fix all his woes, I can only be of support. I try to give him the tools I find online. Just google bullying and you will find an array of advice on how to help your child with the fact he has been the “chosen one” and he will have to face these “bullies” all througout his life. My son has ADHD and yes he’s impulsive, figety and somewhat immature for his age… However, he is also creative, funny and very kind. He is also known in school for his vigilante skills.. or fighting for the “little one”.
Children can be cruel. I have been through teasing in primary and secondary school. My weight, it seems, was an issue for everyone and I was called “fat” “fatso” “pig” “grosse toutoune” “la grosse” etc..etc.. I ended up thinking I was fat all my life, and I still do. I guess, at 44, I lived up to their expectations. That is my issue now, thus, when my son comes home crying, I cannot help but cry with him. I know I have to take charge of my own bullying demons to be able to help him with his. I do not want him growing up thinking his childhood labels define him.
My son has “punched” a bully twice (please know that for some reason he has a couple of different ones), and I know he’s not perfect either. However, the day he stood up for himself was the day “that” particular bully stopped teasing him. And to tell you the complete truth: High fives were in order that day! I took him out for ice cream. I know violence is wrong, yet after all the times he: talked to an adult who didn’t listen, asked the bully to stop, turned and walked away and the teasing just kept on going.. well a wallop was in order!!
So what do you think? Have you experienced bullying?
If so.. how did you cope?
- What is bullying and how does it differ in boys and girls? (education.com)
- Bullying–What Parents Should Know (education.com)
- What Should I Do If I’m Bullied? (education.com)
- Take A Stand Against Bullying! (socialitelife.com)
- B is for Bullying (acommonsea.wordpress.com)
- The BULLY Project (betterinbulk.net)