Last month I blogged about my son’s bullies and his attempt to “fit in”. I don’t know if my prayers helped, or if he started using the tools I gave him, or maybe both, but there is definitely an improvement in his life.
A couple of weeks ago my son called and said: “Mom, can I stay at Vincent’s to do my homework?” I said: “Vincent, who is Vincent?” He replies: “He’s in my class.. Can I stay?” I said sure. I hung up a bit confused not knowing who this new friend was however, I decided to trust and see what happens.
The next week, my son leaves me a note: “Gone to Tom’s I’ll be back for supper”. “Tom’s?” I said to my boyfriend, “wasn’t he the one William punched last year?” again, I trusted the process. As the days progressed, Tom and Vincent were over at my house a couple of times, playing video games or outside playing swords. They were all heroes trying to save the world…. all boys a left behind for one reason or another and found each other.
With this process came independence. He was taking off on his bike, leaving me notes like: “Gone to the lake with my friends.. I’ll be safe.. don’t worry” Don’t worry??? Now that my son has this new-found independence and is riding around town going by the water.. How does a mom not worry? So I gave him a new set of guidelines and again.. I trusted the process. I mean.. My son was coming home happy! He even said to me the other night before falling asleep: “Mom, I got this feeling” “What feeling?” I said, hoping it wasn’t another sad moment for him. He replied with a huge smile: “My heart feels big, I feel happy”.. I replied: “You are feeling joy my son!! Great joy!”…
My best friend and I took my son to Dairy Queen because he did his weekly reading and we had a deal. He asked if his friends could come.. I thought “how can I refuse?” So along came the friends… As I sat there watching my son interacting with them (all 4 of them) I sighed a sigh of relief and thought to myself: “My son is sitting at the round table with his circle of friends” 🙂