Between These Two Unknowns – Dreaming about death


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Birth and death; we all move between these two unknowns.

Bryant H. McGill

You wake up screaming, full of sweat,  and find  your screams mixed with uncontrollable sobbing.  Once you are able to finally focus on the sunlight coming through your window, you realize that you ARE awake, and it YES, it was just a dream.  Yet, you wonder, why you still feel afraid?  Why is the urge to cry lingering? AND why oh why is it so important you call the person you’ve just dreamed about?  You’ve just had the dreaded “death” dream:  You fear the worst.

I had that dream, almost 20 years ago I am sure.  I do not remember the details surrounding the dream, however, I remember seeing my brother (as if I was high up on a ledge observing him) walking through a parking lot, keys in hand, towards his car.  He looked like he was coming back from a work meeting, he was dressed in his suit (my brother, at the time,  had his own business in the works) and had his briefcase in hand.  He approached his car and as soon as he put the keys in the passenger door to unlock it, IT EXPLODED!!! He was dead!

I woke up at that instant crying so hard I almost threw up.  I immediately came back to my senses, but picked up the phone immediately! I was sure I had a premonition dream and I had to save my brother.  Obviously I didn’t, he’s alive and well today, however, why did I have that dream?

My daughter this week, as I mentioned on my Facebook Page, had a dream I died.  She was very upset, she said when she woke up to the point of crying.  In her dream, after I died and the feeling of loss subsided, she decided to go to the house where we lived in our dream and clean it up.  Once the house cleaned, she told me, she started making a list of things she needed to fix up (to take care of).  Then, she started getting ready to take a boat trip.  Her X step-father was in her dream, telling he it was time to get out of the house.  She said his voice was a reminder that it was time, not malicious.  She quickly got her bags, she said, after saying goodbye to her friends on the computer, and hurried to get out.  The boat ride was waiting.  End of dream.

Note my daughter has had a long term relationship with boats, especially as a young child.  She drew them often.  Sailboats in particular.  She was always standing in her boat on calm waters going ahead towards the sun. Thus, the boat symbolism is very personal to her.  It means, freedom, growth and smooth and safe sailing!  

Of course both my daughter and I experienced a bit of panic when she described her dream to me, BUT really do death dreams mean real death?

Birth!

Often, when we draw the Death card in Tarot, we see the worst, until we read the meaning of the card.  In her Tarot book, The Dreamer’s Journal, Barbara Moore describes the Death card in her deck:

“This card can, but rarely does, refer to physical death, which is some comfort.  Death, though, whether physical or metaphorical, is not an easy experience.  This card implies the end of something, perhaps a job, a relationship, a situation, or an organization.  The actual ending will likely be hard, but once it’s over the cycle continues and something new will come. On the other hand, it may be a welcome closure, such as ending a bad relationship, quitting an unhappy job, or selling a house to get a new one.  On a spiritual level, this can mean a symbolic death where you eliminate old beliefs that no longer work for you and perhaps were holding back.  Death is usually hard, but it must happen before transformation or resurrection occurs”  p. 71

Basically, my daughter’s dream makes a lot of sense if you look at it.  She just finished her 3rd year in high-school, she’s taking charge of her life, she follows house rules more often than not, and is coming into her own!  She studies harder, works harder, makes wise choices, and to top it off, this year I told her that my nagging stops, and her choices begin!  

In fact, her dream is a positive one, where  as in she is growing up, learning to depend LESS on me and MORE on herself. This is a great sign or her maturity.  Another way to look at this dream, according to Craig Hamilton-Parker:

“If you dream about your mother dying… it could represent the death of the “motherly” side of your own nature” A more caring and maternal attitude MAY be needed, according to Hamilton-Parker. There may also be a hidden wish to be independent of the mother.
(Source:  www.dreamsleep.net)

The dream about my brother, at the time, seems to mean about the same.  We were very close and depended a lot on each other.  He was always there for me, and I called him constantly when I needed something.  I think the urge to detach myself from him was in a way to A.  Become independent and B.  detach myself from my “jealousy”.  There was a time my brother’s success with EVERYTHING (women, clients, work, sports, etc..) was something I wanted (not the woman part mind you.. but you get the drift).  

Sometime it takes a big explosion to wake you up!

The next time you have the dreaded death dream.  Take a moment to gather your thoughts and write them down.  Look at what changes you have recently made in your life, or new plans coming up.  You may be experiencing troubles in your relationship, or looking to quit your job for a more interesting one.  Whatever experiences you are having, note the old adage: “out with the old and in with the new”!  

If you have had a death dream recently or in the past, jot it down in the comment section.  It will be my pleasure to help you find the meaning.

Have a great weekend!

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Dreams: A Bridge to your True Spirit


“In forming a bridge between body and mind, dreams may be used as a springboard from which man can leap to new realms of experience lying outside his normal state of consciousness.” ~Ann Faraday

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While writing last week’s DreamFriday post I began to  remember a time when I was not paying attention to my night dreams (very early 20’s and before).  I would have night after night of recurring nightmares, or crazy nonsensical dreams which would leave me upset most of the day.

Has this ever happened to you?

You wake up in the middle of the night all emotional and cannot seem to  get “that darn dream” out of your head?  Well let me tell you, I remember one day calling my brother a million times after I saw him go to his car, put in the key the door and blow up!  Yep, all that in my dream.  When I finally got ahold of him, I felt a sense of relief knowing he was safe.  I admit, that particular dream shook me to the core, I thought for a brief second it really happened, thank God it didn’t.  The meaning was something totally unrelated to my brother (in a sense).

With nightmares, don’t panic, but please write them down!

When you have a nightmare, it is important not to panic.  I realised, later on, that the dream about my brother had nothing to do with my brother dying in a mafia coup.  In this dream, my brother represented the successful, yang male in me, who was, at that time in my life, completely self-sabotaging. I was poor, in an abusive relationship, and I had to GET OUT!!

Dreams are not there to give you insomnia, there is a cure!

Dreams are really a mirror of what is really going on in your subconscious.  They are as real as the emotions which are deeply trying to harbor in a cave in your soul.  Dreams are the whispers of your true self desperately trying to get the attention you they deserve.  Because, in truth, the more you look into your dreams, the easier it is to be mindful and make the necessary changes in your life!

Have you noticed the more you ignore a nightmare, it becomes recurring?

This is often the case.  The more you ignore a certain situation in your life, the more violent and disturbing your dreams may become.  They are “urging” you to pay attention!   Again, when a recurring dream comes to you.  Look at the symbol and then relate it to what is going on in your life.

I kept on dreaming of planes crashing and me trying to avoid them by hiding in a corner of a barn somewhere.  These dreams happened again and again, UNTIL I spoke to my psychologist, who in fact studied Jung dream therapy, and we found that these planes represented my anxiety due to my parent’s divorce when I was 12.  These dreams do go deeper, however, I will not go into detail.  However, as soon as I figured out what the “falling planes” dreams were all about, they stopped! Thus, I was able to dig into that pain and heal it afterall.


The next time you have a dream which “boggles” your mind, or scares the crap out of you, look into the symbolism and patterns.  What comes up most often, and write what those archetypes mean to you.

You may find some peace and quiet the next time you go to sleep.

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A house is a home: Where the Spirit Lies.


Many of you are familiar with Jennifer Shelton. She’s the awesome woman behind all the fabulous stuff over at FemCentral The Virtual Institute for Women.  She works as an editor, writer, and webmaster. She is an astrologer and teaches undergraduate, online classes in global cultures for Franklin University. Jennifer is  also a freelance writer and a mom,  and is currently working on a book about Suffragist Lucy Burns.

Jennifer came to me a couple of weeks ago with succinct dreams about “houses”.  Recurring dreams happen often when we really need to pay attention to something really important.  Dreammoods.com state:

“Recurring dreams are quite common and are often triggered by a certain life situation, transitional phase in life or a problem that keeps coming back again and again. These dreams may recur daily, once a week, or once a month. Whatever the frequency, there is little variation in the dream content itself.”

“The frequent repetition of such dreams forces you to pay attention and confront the dream. It is desperately trying to tell you something.  Such dreams are often nightmarish or frightening in their content, which also helps you to take notice and pay attention to them.”

Jennifer noted, that in most of the following dreams, she felt “panicky”.  Obviously, her dreams are really asking her to pay attention.  As you will see below.

The Dreams:

Dream 1:

My son  and I were out and about, and we run into my friend. He goes home with her to play with her kids, and I return to my house. After a while, I realize that I don’t know when or where to pick up my son and that I don’t have my friend’s phone number. I start to panic a little, when she pulls into my driveway with him. She said she wanted to see my house. Then, we both notice that down at the far corner of my land (I have an acre), people have set up chairs and decorations for a party. I am LIVID. No one asked me about it, although, if they had, I wouldn’t have minded. I run down to the corner and start dismantling all the stuff. I see a bunch of bottle rockets laid out and pick them up and break them. One neighbor sees me and gets mad.

Dream 2:

My son  is over at a friend’s house playing. We have just moved into a much smaller place, not much bigger than a camper. I miss our old house. The mother of my son’s  friend has told me that her family is moving, and she offers to give me some of her old furniture. I realize that I don’t know what time to pick my son up from his “play date.” About that time, he comes home.

Dream 3:

I wander into the “wing” of my house that I always forget about (there is no “wing” in real life). I see that it’s been decorated and furnished. The guy who did all this work on my house is still there. I thank him for everything and say that maybe I’ll spend more time in that area now. And, I ask why he’d spend so much money on a house he doesn’t own. He replies, “oh, now that I’ve spent all this money on your house, I’ll be suing you to get ownership.”

Dream 4:

I look out the front door and see a saber tooth tiger sitting in the street. It looks cartoonish, like the one on Ice Age. I open the door and quickly get all my cats to come in the house. A strange cat comes in with them. And, I also see two baby, black bears. I pick them up and notice how soft and cuddly they are. I bring them in the house and try to figure out what to do with them. While deciding, they burrow under some clothes on my floor. Very playful. I figure I will have to call Animal Services for help. Then, I look out my front door, and a very large bear is looking in. I assume it’s the cubs’ mother. But, the tiger is right behind her, and they start to fight. Next thing I know, my door is partly open, and the tiger is partly in my house. I get behind the door and with much physical effort, get it to shut. I relock and bolt it. But, that doesn’t work! The weight of the bear and tiger keep making the door open. So, I get furniture and place it on front the door. Dream ends.

The Interpretation

In dream 1 and 2. I feel it is safe to say that your son represents your “inner child” or “new project” which is your pride and joy!  In both dreams, you seem to panic over the fact that you have maybe neglected some aspect of your “inner child” or “project” and this scares you.  

You allow your son to leave and play, which leads me to believe that you trust this project or your inner child, and yet you are “panicky” because you feel you do not know how or where to pick him up?  Do you feel, in your life now, that something has been “left out” which you feel needs tending to?  (money, job out of the house)

In dream 1, your friend, asks to see your house.  In all these dreams, I am sure your house represents safety, comfort and security.. but it also goes deeper that.

Your neighbors come and think they can have a “party” on your lawn without your permission.. Who are they to tramp all over your “property”.. and come without being invited.  I guess this relates to what you were saying in the group, where neighbors and friends do not think it is “wise” to think you can make money solely on FemCentral

Now that I think about it.. Femcentral being your brainchild.. your son you must provide for .. it makes much sense your son represents this.. It is clear to me now.

I think your friend represents the curiosity side you have about you.  You are curious to go deeper into your house (which represent your basic needs and security) Could also be the curiosity to dig deeper into your “house” of spirit. (faith)

Those bottle rockets you crash.. you are livid that some people are treading on personal space.  I think you are releasing negative energy in your dreams.  It is that simple. Plus, I feel that if people would kindly ask you about his “project” you would be really happy to talk about it.

The neighbor being angry may represent those who do not believe in what you are doing.. or that side of you (EGO) that needs busting!

Dream 2

You move into a smaller house.. feeling constrained I am sure.  Do you feel undervalued in some way?  The fact that your son is out again, leads me to believe the same thing is happening here that you were experiencing in dream 1, but this time he returns on his own. A few minutes of faith, and you would have been blown away!  Because your son will always return.

You miss your comfort and sanctuary, which makes sense to me more now that you explained this in our conversation.  What can you do now in your life to bring back that sense of security?

Dream 3

Renovated room.  There is a room in you, some part of you that maybe you “forgot about”  (I think this room represents a part of you spirit) that was improved and decorated.. and you are willing to spend more time there now that you have discovered its beauty.. (was it an ugly place before?)  What does it represent to you?  

A male did this work for you (male side?) and now he wants to take it away?  AHA! I just got it.. you the yang.. Built this room, and you the yang, wants to “OWN” it!! Get it!! OWN Femcentral.. OWN that this is your life purpose.. OWN IT!! OWN IT OWN IT!! It is not a negative thing, its something you choose to accept now.  And the book research too!

The wing may also represent the need for a wider perspective.

Dream 4

Dream 4 was a bit more tricky because there are many animals in there. So I did a bit of research.

Cats:Cats in dreams represent feminine power. Cats also deal with esoteric knowledge, and spiritual guardianship. White cats represent hightened spiritual awareness. Black cats signify hidden secrets or hidden powers within the dreamer. Wild cats encourage us to exercise our will power more. Tame cats indicate a place of comfort in our lives. See Cat (domestic) symbolism here.
Bears:Bears are symbols of calm, stoic strength. Bears also indicate a time of introspection. If you are dreaming of a bear sleeping or hibernating, this is a message to do a little soul searching before you present an idea to the world. If a bear is chasing you, this means you are avoiding a big issue in your life, and it is time to deal with it. If the bear is standing up, this is a sign you need to defend your beliefs. More bear symbolism here.

I see the saber toothed tiger as a wildcat and tiger. The tiger represents feminine power.   It is, according to Avia’s site, a solar animal representing sun, summer and fire.  God of Wealth and safekeeper.

So why is the Mama Bear fighting with the saber tooth?  Defending your rights against the God of wealth?

Are they there to protect or take away your feminine power?  This I think you should look more into with the information I have provided.  This part is up to you to figure out, we can discuss.

Jen’s Response

For  the bear versus Tiger – I’m scared that following my dream/intuition will hurt my son  in some way. You know, it’s all well and good to risk my personal economic livelihood but I have my child  to take care of too!  Or thinking that i can’t possibly make enough money to survive without a “real” job?  Thank you so much. The interpretations were brilliant as always!

Do you have a recurring dream you want to share?  Post it below in the comment section.  For more info about me and how you can receive a dream interpretation from me click here and here.  Thank you! 

 

 

Transparency


Today I introduce Christiana Kanaki she lives in Greece.   She is a wonderful mother of 2 teens, seeking and growing, like you and I on this marvelous place we call earth.  She describes herself as a woman in love, married, Mom, Daughter thinking and meditating.  She loves reading, writing, Pilates, walking, knitting and she’s a Reiki Practitioner.

Christiana came to me a few months ago with this amazing dream!  I really felt different when I interpreted her dream and believe this may be a premonition into other worlds.  Read on and let me know what you think in the comment section.

Dreams

Throughout my life there have been dreams (places or situations) that repeat themselves. For example, I remember when I was a child I used to visit a certain place of public toilets that pretty much looked like a labyrinth and that made me extremely nervous, as they had no doors on either the showers, nor the toilets! This particular place disappeared from my dreams, to my relief, but I cannot remember exactly when.

 Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing. –Arundhati Roy

Then, it was the flying and floating dream! I used to amaze people (known and unknown) on the ground with my loops and low flights! I loved it so much, but it also stopped… Now I can have such flights in my meditations.

And recently, I use to see myself visiting this “shop” which is multi-storey. It could be an outlet, cause I had the feeling I was looking for low-priced and good quality. I used to take the stairs, but yesterday, I took the elevator!

From outside, I had the feeling that the building was renovated… no obvious changes, but it was like I knew there was work done inside and was wondering if it was finished. So I took the elevator with other unknown people. The elevator became transparent and as it went upwards we soon reached a level with huge tubes like the ones for ventilation, only much bigger, that were forming like a net… I realized these tubes were partly covered by a steaming liquid, opaque, whitish with green hue, that was just bellow us. The elevator cabin started to swing and our feet were touching/going into this liquid. I felt no panic and the swinging felt like a nice surprise.

The feeling of the liquid itself, was something I cannot describe!!! It was warm and rejuvenating, relaxing and detoxifying, an instant spa!!!

It was like this was a free test of it for us, and we could soon use a full bath in it… The walls of the building were transparent, too (I remember saying that “This is not finished, yet!”) and I had the impression that it was an extraterrestrial scenery!!!

I saw myself siting with the rest of the people on sofas, around a transparent room, and suddenly I saw an old friend of mine that I haven’t seen for years, but we keep touch through FB or phone. He looked different than in real life but I knew it was him, with his family, and one of my nephews who run to me.

This friend, represents to me the practical mind, that believes only what he sees, who would probably make fun of my spirituality, but in good faith… I mean he would never do it to hurt me …

The Interpretation

Christiana, I must tell you I have this “gut” feeling that this is not a “normal” dream.. not in a bad sense, but I think you did experience some sort of foresight. Either you’ve just seen some parts of our future, or you spirit has experience something which already exists in another dimension. Your dream does tell you that you have woken up from the “veil that you are under” (note:  Christiana was feeling like she was under a veil before this dream) and experiencing some shift of consciousness. Almost like you were experiencing what our spirit can experience without our body… like a quantum leap of some kind. The liquid was soothing and “greenish” meaning healing, growth, change… comfort “well-being” bliss!! You explored through “transparency” nothing was hidden there. All masks where OFF! The elevator instead of the stairs is a huge LEAP of faith in my book.. making the trip easier and more comfortable. The fact that you cannot find words to describe the experience, is what leads me to believe that there are no words because it was a unique experience!!! Your friend doesn’t go there to challenge your beliefs.. He remains present, reminding you to do the same!

I want to thank Christiana for giving me permission to publish her dream.

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