Who looks inside awakens

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He who knows others is learned;

He who knows himself is wise.

~Lao-tzu, Tao te Ching

Since I started #dreamfriday I’ve been interpreting women’s dreams.  When a man asked me if I could look at a recent dream which disturbed him, my stomach twisted in knots when I said yes.  I had never officially interpreted male dreams, thus I didn’t know what I was getting into!  Over the years, while listening to men talk about their dreams, I noticed men often dream of violence or sex.   So when John (not his real name) sent me his dream, I wasn’t exactly sure how I was going to deal with it.  So… I decided to do what I always do and go with my knowledge and intuition.

Here are the results:

The Dream

I was watching the news with my mom. It showed a young girl and guy (about 21 years old) that were in some kind of distillery or something (there were barrels). They didn’t know each other, but they were making small talk and the girl jokingly told the guy to shut up… the guy then said (with a smile, but you could tell he was pissed off) “YOU shut the fuck up!” then he lost control and punched her in the face, knocked her out. My mom and I became upset seeing that, we couldn’t believe it.

Then the 2nd scene, the girl was walking out to her car and the guy saw her again, and for some reason just lost his mind — grabbed her, broke her arm (I saw and heard the arm break), broke her hand, and at the sight of that I just freaked out. I was really upset. Then I woke up.

The Interpretation

What I am seeing here maybe something that is deep-rooted in your

Subconscious (happening in a dark cavish place with barrels)  Each barrel may contain a repressed memory or just “stuff” that has been with you for a long time.

Most people, women and men, at some time in their lives deal with male and female sides of themselves… you probably know this already, but it’s coming up in your dream. The fact they are strangers leads me to assume this may be either new, or newly resurfaced issue.

What I see here, is you are sitting with your mom (superego).  Note:  the superego is usually the “parental” part of you,  so in this instance,  your mom.  She actually represents  that part of you in this dream.  The superego equals:  morals, judgements, parental control.   So basically you are watching this happen and not liking this at all!  In your waking life?  Where are you judging yourself or questioning yourself?

The two young adults also represent a part of you, most probably the id (which represent hidden desires, wishes and dreams) .  You have 2 which 1 is yin and the other is yang.

Basically, it seems you are dealing with your male side trying to dominate and oppress your female side.  It really wants to push it way down and not let the yin come out.  Your male side takes it to the point of really hurting this female side.  I would question:  How can I find balance between my yin and my yang and still feel whole?  Does this make any sense?


I had a really disturbing, violent dream that bothered me for days. Kim worked her Jungian magic to show me the facets of myself were represented by the characters in my dream, and how the violent events of the dream applied to a very real struggle I have experienced in waking life. I realized my subconscious was sending me a message to integrate and heal — thanks to Kim’s wisdom and insight, I now understand that message and have begun the healing process.

Men and women may dream differently…

… but I discovered that I do not have to interpret them differently….. because our minds, men and women’s minds, are always trying to speak to us when we sleep, and its up to us to listen to the message.


Tequila, the ring, and a chair by a pond – Part II The Interpretation

Please note in tomorrow’s post Megan Monique gives

 me her take on the interpretation.


The Interpretation


Being with a group usually means you are merging various aspects of your personality. I see many players in this dream. Each and every one of them, it seems, represent a part of you, thus the merging.

In the beginning of the dream you resist going to Paris, making up excuses not to go with this group, right at the last-minute. As we discussed, Paris in your eyes is a cold, touristy place, and a place like anywhere else, so going there in your dream was not important to YOU yet important to others! Right? So I am wondering here, what is it in your life now, that you are saying NO to because you are standing up for yourself?

As you leave this group with the DUDE (that’s the name I gave him) you leave your only way of communicating with those you left. Leaving you vulnerable and scared.. Out of the loop.. Not knowing.. Disconnected.. Paranoid, like something really bad is going to happen: I feel deep-rooted fear in your life now.

Also, I see in this dream that you are carrying BAGGAGE, lots of it, enough that is takes you long to gather it up and continue on your path every time. So, my question is: What baggage are you carrying in this life which is slowing you down? What still needs go?

I see there are two things here you let go willingly!! YES! Your dream helped you with this.

1. You let go of Tequila.. I think Tequila represents regret, and self-sabotage. Have you made intentions of letting this go lately? Or maybe you are doing this unconsciously. If not.. Its time to let go of any regret, fears which will lead to self sabotage. Also, the fights with Brian! What are the issues about.. What are you NOT saying to Brian today that you cannot say without the Tequila!!! ?? I think letting go of the Tequila in your dream will help with communication with him from now on!

2. The ring: Rings usually mean commitment and loyalty. Do you feel that you need to let go of some of the commitments that you made? Would letting them go make you feel “unloyal”? Because if so, give yourself permission to do so if it’s not calling you anymore.

The fact that you let these go after you went down a narrow steep path leads me to believe that the journey of letting go is scary, and mixed with some narrow-mindedness (resistance)… (which we all have).. Maybe open up to the idea of letting something go that no longer serves you.. Could be past hurts, past friendships.etc.. The fact that you went down to do this leads me to believe this is deep-rooted!

The good news is both the pond and the chair mean you need some quiet time to yourself.. .a time to reflect on this situation going on in your life.. Time to contemplate to relax. I think whatever is that is tormenting you, scaring you right NOW, can be resolved with some good old-fashioned reflection and meditation.

Once the baggage let go in the pond, the older sister dies. This leads me to believe a part of you has died, the angry Tequila chick!!! Like I said, letting go releases the anger (cause the older sister was angry a few times in this dream)..

Then she WARNS you. Your inner child (id) and EGO (you) both hear this.

FATHER (parental figure) is angry because you unleashed a secret. Warning ! Warning ! You get scared of this part of you.. You are hiding from this part of you that holds a secret of some sort. Does everyone in your real family know exactly what you do for a living? Do you hide your real talents from them? Do you feel like if everyone knew the Real MEGAN MONIQUE They would judge you? I will ask this question but don’t feel insulted.. Is Brian supportive of all that you do? Or does he think (or someone in your life think) You should go out and get a “real job” ???

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned,
so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.”
~Joseph Campbell~

Because you feel hurried, misplaced, unwanted, disliked, scared, threatened etc.. Seems to me someone is your real life or YOU are putting pressure on yourself..and judging yourself. STOP THAT!!! Because in the end you are singing happily with your choir. The choir, I truly believe represents all those who do support you, and most importantly the part of you who believes in yourself.. Alas, yet again, you meet disapproval.

Who disapproves? Who is not supporting you in your new endeavours? Who are you hiding your true self from?

As we discussed, I think your North Node is calling you. We’ve discussed these North Nodes many times with Jennifer Shelton. Maybe she can clarify further, and give you another perspective.

I found this description of your North Node here:

North Node, Libra South Node (found on northnodeastro for the purpose of this interpretation)

Your Aries North Node Soul wants to find its courage. It wants to be excited, to explore, and even to be stressed out— if that’s what it will take to bring forth the independent and courageous side of you! Courage is the high road for Aries, and it’s what we do each time we step up the plate and “show up” whether we feel like it or not. Courage is what we need to have to survive and to be a pioneer. You are the natural survivor, pioneer, entrepreneur and sacred warrior of the zodiac.

However, if you wish, ask Jennifer at FemCentral to see what role your North Node  and South Node play in this dream, because I have a feeling they do..

Jennifer is the  founder of FemCentral, where she also works as an astrologer, intuitive coach and instructor.

I really loved interpreting Megan’s dream.  There is so much more I discovered while writing this post.   I hope you enjoyed today’s #DreamFriday.  Please come back tomorrow.  I will be posting Megan’s feedback. 

Sweet dreams